You criticize yourself...a lot. You criticize your boss, your partner, your co-worker, your neighbor, your parents, your siblings, your child, etc.

The reason you criticize yourself and others isn't all that complicated. You are simply unaware that you have been telling a "story" to yourself about yourself and about others. That story goes something like this: "I don't matter" or "I am not enough".

You don't know it, but when you tell yourself the story "I don't matter" or "I am not enough", you feel bad. Those bad feelings cloud your judgment about others. Conflict erupts, hurt feelings last, jealousy rears its head, and you get into a rut you can't get out of. 

We have a solution for you: change your thoughts to change your story. Change your story and master your life.

Human beings MUST make sense out of their experiences. We call this “attaching meaning” OR “creating a story” OR “creating a narrative”. These expressions are used in psychology. We are going to use “creating a story” as the term for this explanation. The “story” you tell yourself about that experience is the same as the THOUGHTS and FEELINGS you have about the experience. Sometimes the “story” (same as your THOUGHTS and FEELINGS) that you tell yourself about an experience is not helpful or productive. You will know it is not helpful or productive by the way you FEEL about the experience, by the ACTIONS you take, and by the RESULTS you get.